People love pregnant women. People also lose their minds (and often their filters) when they see a pregnant woman. Something about the belly makes for an automatic conversation starter, and most of the time that’s great! After all, most of us love talking about our bundles-to-be and we’re usually happy to chat for a minute about how far along we are, whether we know the gender, etc. Unfortunately, there’s always the awkward conversation that gets thrown in there as well. So, now that I’ve been on the receiving end of some of these gems twice, I thought I’d write a little PSA to anyone who might know someone (or see someone randomly) who is pregnant. Here are my top tips for things NOT to say to a pregnant lady.
1. “You’re HOW far along?! You look like you’re ready to pop!” or “Are you sure it’s not twins?”
Nope. Not twins. But thanks for calling me fat.
2. “You must be having a boy/girl because _________.”
Ali, of Mom Explores Southwest Florida, said someone told her “I bet you are having a girl because I heard you gain all over with girls.” Yikes!
Kim, of Mom Explores Virginia Beach said someone told her she must be having a girl because her skin looked terrible, and girls “steal your beauty.”
Y’all. If we want you to guess we’ll tell you. Promise.
3. “Oh, another boy/girl… you can always try again.”
Ummm… You can’t be disappointed for me. We’re very happy to be having another baby of the same gender as the first.
4. “You really shouldn’t be ________” (fill in the blank with some random, unsolicited advice).
My favorite word of warning was from my own grandmother who said “you shouldn’t lift your hands above your head, that’s how the baby’s umbilical cord gets wrapped around his neck!” … Huh? (Love you, Granma!)
5. “How much weight have you gained?” “Are your ankles swelling yet?” Or any number of other personal questions.
Would you also like to know the results of my latest cervical exam?
What are some of the crazy things you heard from people while you were pregnant? Let’s commiserate in the comments!